Quiet

M’s eczema is out of control.  Completely out of control.  eczema uncontrolled

He had a doctor’s appointment a couple of days ago and the doctor gave him a script for antibiotics. To be honest I didn’t expect that; there was no clear sign of infection and I thought a course of Betnovate would sort it out –  it always has in the past. Anyway, M took it all in stride and we left the office.

As I got alone on a walloutside I saw M sitting quietly on the wall and it hit me.  He’s really upset. I don’t know why I didn’t realise it before but he was feeling angry and disappointed and frustrated and fed-up. Totally fed-up.

How could I have been so blind?  Of course he is upset!

There are so many restrictions on what he can eat and where he can go and now, on top of the ongoing frustration, he has this extra problem.  I’d be pretty pissed off!!

We are so used to children being loud and up front about their feelings that it is easy to overlook the quiet child.

Quiet doesn’t mean happy.

 

I stopped what I was saying, took a couple of breaths and asked him if he was ok.  He didn’t even look up when he said,

“What do you think? Of course I’m upset! I hate my life!”

How am I supposed to respond to that?

I asked if he wanted a cuddle, I let him know that I was there for him and I acknowledged what he said: he was right, it was pretty shitty, and we had two choices – wallow in frustration and anger or follow the doctor’s advice and move forward.  I suggested that we follow the medical advice to get past this hurdle then try to keep on top of the eczema so that it does not get this bad again, then I offered another cuddle.

Quiet doesn’t mean happy.

 

 

 

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