The Birds and the Bees

Some conversations are tricky (my birds and bees experience springs to mind!) and I have to work hard to find the right phrases but by treating each conversation seriously and respectfully The Kids understand that what they think matters; their questions and opinions have merit, even if they challenge my comfort levels.

I must admit that I really enjoy the discussions I have with the kids. You never know what topic they’re going to come up with and it definitely keeps me on my toes.  Sometimes we are silly and try to out-do each other with gross names (‘eyeball-nose’ is one of M’s favourites) and other times we end up with world news and I have to figure out how to explain why some people bomb or shoot others.

One of the trickier aspects of these discussions is figuring out how to explain in an age-appropriate and non-boring way.  If it’s too long they switch off and if it’s too short they are still confused.

Sometimes I don’t have the answers or can’t find the right words but I always come back after some thinking/research and continue the discussion.  Aside from illustrating that we all need help sometimes it’s a reality check.

Being adults doesn’t mean we know everything.

Being children doesn’t mean their knowledge/questions are of no value.

Being able to find the answer, that’s priceless.





2 thoughts on “The Birds and the Bees”

  1. I must wait to giving up on age-appropriate mess; I simply explain things as if speaking to adults. Sometimes, they’re able to process it quickly, at other times, we break it right down. There are, of course, situations when I readily admit to them to not knowing enough to explain a particular topic.


    1. I think I know what you mean. I’ve always talked to The Kids with the assumption that they understand but with some things (like the birds and bees) I let them guide the level of detail- “do you want all the science or just the basics? Would you like the proper names of body parts?”

      I see the interest but also a smidge embarrassment so I’m careful to not go over their comfort level.

      We ended up with girls and boys have poo bits and wee bits but girls have baby bits as well and sex is when the girl bits and boy bits come together. That satisfied M without totally embarrassing him.

      I’ve just realised that my explanation isn’t quite right…I didn’t go into same sex couples.

      We have gay friends and it was tricky when The Kids asked how they had a baby if there’s no daddy. I think I said a friend helped them.


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