Some conversations are tricky (my birds and bees experience springs to mind!) and I have to work hard to find the right phrases but by treating each conversation seriously and respectfully The Kids understand that what they think matters; their questions and opinions have merit, even if they challenge my comfort levels.
I must admit that I really enjoy the discussions I have with the kids. You never know what topic they’re going to come up with and it definitely keeps me on my toes. Sometimes we are silly and try to out-do each other with gross names (‘eyeball-nose’ is one of M’s favourites) and other times we end up with world news and I have to figure out how to explain why some people bomb or shoot others.
One of the trickier aspects of these discussions is figuring out how to explain in an age-appropriate and non-boring way. If it’s too long they switch off and if it’s too short they are still confused.
Sometimes I don’t have the answers or can’t find the right words but I always come back after some thinking/research and continue the discussion. Aside from illustrating that we all need help sometimes it’s a reality check.
Being adults doesn’t mean we know everything.
Being children doesn’t mean their knowledge/questions are of no value.
Being able to find the answer, that’s priceless.