Priorities

I've always put The Kids first.  I used all my energy for them and, although it wasn't a lot, I did as much as I could with them.  That sounds honourable but actually that left nothing for B.  Or myself. Or anyone else. When The Kids were babies/toddlers/very young children I think they needed that attention and [...]

Forgotten? Maybe not.

There is no guidance available for disabled parents; we fall through all the cracks.  It's as though disabled people are supposed to live alone their whole lives and not have children. Try getting through an airport with wheelchair assistance - there are no allowances for having children with you.  One wheelchair assistant actually said [of my [...]

Education?

I used to be one of these 'trust the system' people believing that all the people entrusted to provide things like care, support and education had the experience, knowledge and desire to do the right thing.  As I came to need the system I realised that it is all a façade- there is no 'one [...]

International Women’s Day

Last night M and I were having dinner in my bedroom (I'm stuck at the moment) and I mentioned that it is International Women's Day; he asked if there is an International Men's Day and, if there is, when is it. "Every other day is International Men's Day" I got a confused look so went on to [...]

Disability & The UK

​I just read a blog post from Disability Now written by a young person about voting and political neglect and it got me thinking.  I am unable to get to polling stations so I have a postal vote and I'm still waiting to get my voting papers for the Brexit referendum. I did get my postal vote for [...]

And the award goes to…

...Vodafone for the Worst Customer Service Ever. #VodafoneStinks  Since yesterday evening I have spent almost six hours online with Vodafone customer services. One chat was over four hours!! I'm not exaggerating... I have the chat transcripts.  I got the feeling they were trying to out-wait me so that I'd  give up. (I very much wanted [...]

How do you know?

It's not always easy to make the right decision.  What is the right decision? How do you figure it out? I've got my Golden Rules.  Rules can be annoying (like when you need to get a building manager's permission to have a pet in your own flat!!) but they do offer a certain fairness; in [...]

What’s your preference?

Small town living is very different to city living. In a city you’re fairly anonymous – alone in a crowd.  We haven’t even moved to the town yet and everyone seems to know which house we’re buying. There is good and bad with this. Good that it’s a cosy community that will hopefully be as [...]

Heartbreaking

I read this and my heart cried.  Our children should not have these concerns. Thousands and thousands of people [of all races and colours] fought and died in wars for freedom and here we are still condemning people for the colour of their skin. I'm a mixture of Indian and Chinese, my skin is brown.  When [...]