Priorities

I've always put The Kids first.  I used all my energy for them and, although it wasn't a lot, I did as much as I could with them.  That sounds honourable but actually that left nothing for B.  Or myself. Or anyone else. When The Kids were babies/toddlers/very young children I think they needed that attention and [...]

My two cents – Part 1

So I've been watching the interviews at the Happily Family Parenting Conference. Lots of speakers. Lots of good questions and guidance.  Nothing about disabled parents so far. The advice provided is for everyone and it is very good advice.  Great advice.  I feel really reassured that it all lines up with my instinctive parenting style but there is [...]

How do you know?

I have been worrying a lot about The Kids recently.... am I doing the right thing with the home education?  Am I providing a suitable education? Are they getting out and about enough?  Am I becoming a Permissive Parent? Am I leading them down the wrong path? How am I supposed to know? A few months ago [...]

I definitely do not have the answers!

Children assume parents have all the answers and know what we're doing when in truth we're stumbling along in the dark winging it.  We have no idea!  Having a baby exit your body or your spouse's does not prepare you for the psychological minefield that is to come. There is so much preparation for labour [...]

Education?

I used to be one of these 'trust the system' people believing that all the people entrusted to provide things like care, support and education had the experience, knowledge and desire to do the right thing.  As I came to need the system I realised that it is all a façade- there is no 'one [...]

International Women’s Day

Last night M and I were having dinner in my bedroom (I'm stuck at the moment) and I mentioned that it is International Women's Day; he asked if there is an International Men's Day and, if there is, when is it. "Every other day is International Men's Day" I got a confused look so went on to [...]

The Birds and the Bees

Some conversations are tricky (my birds and bees experience springs to mind!) and I have to work hard to find the right phrases but by treating each conversation seriously and respectfully The Kids understand that what they think matters; their questions and opinions have merit, even if they challenge my comfort levels. I must admit that [...]

Money Matters

I think the best way to get The Kids to appreciate the value of money is for them to have some and to choose how to spend it. I don't mean 20p/50p but a larger sum which would give them the opportunity to buy something decent because they would be able to afford it.  If they only have [...]