My two cents – Part 1

So I've been watching the interviews at the Happily Family Parenting Conference. Lots of speakers. Lots of good questions and guidance.  Nothing about disabled parents so far. The advice provided is for everyone and it is very good advice.  Great advice.  I feel really reassured that it all lines up with my instinctive parenting style but there is [...]

Lupus & Me

Lupus has taken its toll on me and my biggest fear is the effect on my brain.  I can feel the cognitive loss- it frustrates and scares me that I now need twice as long to understand simple things.  When I try to explain this loss to my doctors I usually get a look like I [...]

Epiphany

I had an epiphany this morning. Lying in bed completely flat and in that semi-awake state where you're awake but clinging to that last bit of sleep I realised that I was resting all wrong. I know it sounds ridiculous but for those of us with fatigue issues rest becomes a science.  For example, lying [...]

Forgotten? Maybe not.

There is no guidance available for disabled parents; we fall through all the cracks.  It's as though disabled people are supposed to live alone their whole lives and not have children. Try getting through an airport with wheelchair assistance - there are no allowances for having children with you.  One wheelchair assistant actually said [of my [...]

How do you know?

I have been worrying a lot about The Kids recently.... am I doing the right thing with the home education?  Am I providing a suitable education? Are they getting out and about enough?  Am I becoming a Permissive Parent? Am I leading them down the wrong path? How am I supposed to know? A few months ago [...]

I definitely do not have the answers!

Children assume parents have all the answers and know what we're doing when in truth we're stumbling along in the dark winging it.  We have no idea!  Having a baby exit your body or your spouse's does not prepare you for the psychological minefield that is to come. There is so much preparation for labour [...]

Fear

The phone was ringing – it was B. I asked, as I always do, if all was well.  The answer was always yes so I didn’t expect anything different. This time the answer was no. I froze. What did he mean?  What happened? Why is everything not okay? B’s mum had collapsed after having chest [...]

Freedom

Almost everywhere we look today migration is bandied about as a bad thing. Why? We are by nature a curious folk and this curiosity has led to all the amazing things we now have in the world.  Migration brings new people, experiences, viewpoints, cultures, tastes, sounds, sights, smells, collaborations and discoveries. How many of us love a [...]